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Living with a Physically Disabled Partner, Family Member

When someone has a partner who is physically challenged or physically disabled, the lives and everyday routine in the household becomes instantaneously and often irrevocably different. Every situation needs to be assessed from a totally different point of view. At this point the family will need to stop and think and consider things like placement of furniture and other supporting household items.

Living Quarters and Home Environment

In a house where there is a disabled or physically challenged person, the members of the household need to consider how the disabled person might have to adjust and cope with getting around that obstacle. Simple things that often are not even thought of can become a problem for a disabled partner.

For example while leaving a coffee table in the middle of the floor in a living room is often quite acceptable in a normal home. Throw rugs which have long been used in the home for decoration can now become a possible trip and fall hazard for the disabled person.

The family can also expect that the disabled person will have a rather steep adjustment curve. This person is often going from a rather active former life style to one where they are often close to sedimentary. Things that the person could easily do without a thought now become a challenge to do.

The one thing that is important to consider in this situation is to take into consideration the feelings of the individual that has the disability. It is often very helpful to include them in discussions about the arrangements and the problems that might be foreseen. The disabled person might think that some of the spouses concerns are not founded and on the flip side of that, something that might not have even crossed the minds of the spouse could end up being a huge concern for the disabled person who will have to deal with it.

Whatever the case, the focus should be on returning to normal life as soon as possible and this means making changes for everybody’s comfort and convenience. For example, adaptive driving hand controls may be one of the many changes that can be made to give a loved one the ability to return to a better level of functioning. It will still allow everybody to use the family car and return some level of independence back to the disabled family member.

Coping with Life with a Disabled Partner

Life with a disabled partner may be a challenge for everyone concerned to attempt to learn and cope with the disability. It is not only the person that has a disability that is going to have issues to deal with. The spouse and other family members will also have some issues to deal to be able to make it through this challenge in a healthy and safe manner for everyone concerned.

Often times when the family looks at the disability and the home where the disabled person is living they might see that there are some actual modifications that will need to be made to the home in order to make it hospitable and safe for the disabled person.

Wheelchair accessibility at home by building an entrance or exit ramp might need to be installed for wheel chairs. Or perhaps the disabled person is going to need some changes made to the shower or the toilet is in order for them to be able to safely use the area. A host of mobility  aids are available that can make simple procedures more easier for the disabled family member.

It is important to consider the expected length of the disability and the severity in making a plan for the overall project. Remember that the disabled person is already feeling like a burden and the more that you can alleviate that feeling and give them independence, the better they will feel and the faster they will improve. Even with a permanent disability, the family member may still want the level of independence that they enjoyed prior to the onset of the disability.

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vse Said:

I have not signed up for disability, but my doctor declared me disabled for handicapped parking due to my multiple medical conditions, including 3 herniated thoracic discs, spinal arthritis, spondylosis, amoung other issues.
The condo. complex where we live assigns parking spaces for each unit, but will not allow me to park my pick up truck in our appointed space.
The truck is a more comfortable ride for me then conventional cars, but they do not want pick ups on the property. We were NOT aware of this rule, so we asked for an exception.
What they told me is, I can park my truck in my spot on days I NEED it, however, it has to be on the street by nightfall. This is a painful walk for me to make, and was wondering what my rights are, even if I do not collect disability thru my own choice.

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